The intricacies of human relationships are hardly ever easy to follow or explain; like a Gordian knot, we may never know where a relationship ends or begins. Even the people who are closest to us will remain unknown to us in many ways and the meaning of a relationship may be more important than the unravelling of its complexity.  A meaningful relationship, romantic or otherwise, can be fulfilling, frustrating and enriching at the same time and can turn mere existence into living. I believe that the quailty of our life depends on the quality of our relationships.

I hope that this website can offer a good place to pause and think about the meaning of our relationships with others and with our own selves.

Latest posts:

• Friends - This post is about my belief that friendship in committed and romantic relationship is a sentiment that not only will enrich the partners in the relationship but also carry it well into the future. What is friendship? I often think of the meaning of a friend and what makes their friendship meaningful to me. I know that different friends inspire and evoke different feelings and experiences; some provide warmth and happiness, others provide intellectual stimulation, with some I feel at home and others remind me to stay grounded and what it means to be a friend. Sometimes friends offer a […]
• Intimacy Menu - What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a relationship? Some people describe intimacy as being close and connected, others speak about being able to share thoughts and a broad range of feelings and others describe intimacy as being vulnerable and feeling that they matter. This menu was designed to expand the experience of intimacy beyond sex in relationships.  
• Slow Sex Tasting Menu - This menu was designed to encourage unhurried and mindful time together and to nurture curiosity and a sense of discovery.  
• Wishes for 2023 - I ended the previous post with the thought that your partner is and will be to some degree a mystery to you regardless of how long you have known them. When faced with ambiguous and complex situations as relationships can be, we tend to do two things: we stereotype them and we try to predict what others will do next based on our experience of them, thus our prediction and their response create a repeating cycle or dance, if you will. Research in psychology has identified that we tend to judge others by their behaviour and ourselves by our intentions. […]
• You can never truly know another - We mostly believe that life events influence and change us; we tend to also believe that to varying degrees we are flexible and adaptable; we adjust, try to solve problems in ways that require new skills – we change our views and beliefs of what was important to us in the past and is important to us in the present. We also only share with others some of our views, doubts, hopes and concerns and as such, we are only partly known to others. The same applies to all of us. Although, we assume that we think objectively about ourselves, […]